We did it! This wedding planner has officially been married! Buckle up, because I’m going to share my experience with you–the amazing, the okay, and well, the ugly.
First of all, let me start by saying, our wedding day was truly one of the best days of my life, but really, it was the entire week of our wedding that still brings a tear to my eye. We “eloped” to Kauai with our family and our friends who have become family. After being a wedding planner for 6 years, I knew I wanted something relaxing, fun, and incredibly intimate. Ryan wanted to be married at the courthouse, so we met in the middle… and did what I wanted #spoiled. I knew that it wasn’t really about the napkin fold, or the china, even though I totally fussed over those things. It was about sharing this new chapter of our lives with the people who have loved us and supported us from the beginning.
I arrived on the island a week before the wedding. My sweet, sweet colleague Blake from SLOtography‘s father lived on the island. Calvin was a GODSEND–he let me ship a ton of stuff to his home. Shipping to Kauai takes longer than you think. Amazon Prime? HA! I had items arrive 2 weeks after our wedding, and I had ordered them almost 2 weeks before our wedding.
About two months before our wedding, our florist cancelled on us. I was devastated. She was the only vendor we had booked a year prior to our wedding when we went to the island to make sure it was feasible for us to be married there. I 100% always advise my clients against DIY floral arrangements, but that was my plan. There were TONS of farmers markets with gorgeous flowers. Two days before the wedding, we stocked on up some of the most beautiful flowers I had ever seen. The house we stayed in was covered in amazing foliage, so the morning of the wedding, I sipped my coffee and trimmed away. My bridesmaids and I made our bouquets, and all the flowers on the table. The idea of edible table arrangements sounded wonderful to me, and Kauai has so much fresh fruit–so the tables were adorned in dragon fruit, star fruit, papayas, and bananas.
Before I had left for Kauai, I obsessed about the weather. My stomach ulcer was growing, I could feel it. The weather apps projected rain every single day. Well, Hawaiian weather changes every 20 minutes, and I’m not exaggerating. I downloaded WunderGround instead of the traditional Weather app. 6 days before the wedding, and the only day it was really supposed to rain, was our wedding day. 5 days, 4 days, 3 days, 2 days… rain still projected. I kept hearing that there was this huge storm rolling in, and people should prepare sandbags. I was so sad. This vision I had for my wedding day was going to be completely thwarted by this (expletive) rain. We woke up on our wedding day, and it was incredibly humid. No rain until 4pm. Great. Ceremony time. I don’t do incredibly well in the heat, but add humidity to it, and I’m a MESS. Ryan showered before he put his suit on, and when he put his shirt on, he had already soaked through it. I just kept telling myself, “At least it’s not raining.” We had set up the dinner tables, and put out the ceremony benches in the right spot. Everyone was just about seated for the ceremony, and it started pouring. I wanted to cry, but also, my makeup was flawless, so let’s not mess it up yet. We waited 5 minutes, and then we went out there. It was perfect. No rain, no burning sun, just absolute perfection.
I can remember my entire wedding day so perfectly. I only had a few drinks because I really wanted to soak (no pun intended) in every single feeling and memory to be made. Our nephew was just about 2 on our wedding day. He was a groomsman, not a ringbearer, and his parents were both in the wedding. We told them both to not stress over Miles being a kid during our ceremony–if he wanted to run around, or be silly, we wanted him to do that. It was perfect, because as we walked back down the aisle, he was standing in the middle clapping for us, and then walked hand in hand with his uncle. All of the toasts made me cry. Spending time with Ryan’s cousin, who took time off from the Navy to be our best man, was so special. All of these people took time away from their lives, to celebrate ours. Out of everything, that’s the one thing I want to share with you. You’re excited for your wedding, but so are all of those people. Make your wedding a destination to somewhere special to you. Those memories are something you will have forever.
MANY thanks to our friends and family for making the journey. Not only that, but a huge thank you to Uncle Ed for writing and performing our ceremony, and Aunt Sher for learning an outrageously hard song for our procession and recession. It meant so much to us that you were such a huge part of our wedding day.
PS: We were so lucky to have our SLOcal photographer, Sarah Kathleen with us. We had her husband and her baby girl, Phoenix, join us for the day, too. Phoenix helped make some of the staged photos a little sillier, and it was just perfect.
PPS: We were able to get sunset photos with a badass storm brewing in the background. You’re allowed to stress about the weather, and if anyone tells you to calm down, tell them you will not have it. Just know that this is out of your control, so wasting the time on that does you no benefit.
First of all, let me just say, Trevor was a freaking lifesaver, multiple times. We forgot ice #rookiemistake, and right before the ceremony, he ran down and got us a ton. My grandmother on my father’s side has alzheimers, and Trevor was kind enough to help grandma Facetime during the ceremony. It really meant so much to me that she could be part of our day, and Trev helped make that possible.
BEST DAY EVER PROVIDED BY:
Planning + Design: Eventful Wedding Planning
Hair + Makeup: Artistry by Stefanie (amazing, and literally one of the FASTEST artists EVER!)
Venue + VRBO: Hale Momo
Dress: SPARKLE Bridal
Groom’s Suit: Hey Gorgeous Formal Wear
Laser Cut Placards: Fran Johnson House
Bridesmaid’s Gifts: Pink Chemistry
Father of the Bride Gift: C and T Custom Lures
Custom Mountain Range Wedding Bands: Studio PMR
Plus Size bridal robes: Pink Blush
Silveware: All About Events
Rentals: Lee’s Rentals
Bridesmaid’s Robes: Amazon
Photographer: Sarah Kathleen
Custom Wedding Band: B. Anthony Jewelers
Pies: Right Slice
Catering: Contemporary Flavors
Invitations by my favorite artist EVER: Pigment & Parchment